Acceptance

Through a regular yoga practice, we learn to accept what is - where we are in our career, our relationships, our asana* practice, our life...This is not to suggest that with a regular yoga practice we accept everything in our lives without question, or that everything is suddenly easy, but we do learn that the more that we allow ourselves to be 'okay' with our current situation, the sooner we are able to change the things we want to change. This is incredibly powerful, but also deeply humbling.

When we choose to accept our current circumstances, we are no longer able to blame outside sources for those circumstances. We must take ownership of the good and the bad in our lives.

When I got pregnant, I was in a great place in my life. I also had a plan. I knew I was going to eat healthfully, practice yoga every day, and get plenty of rest. Unfortunately, I made this plan without knowing what it was like to be pregnant. First, I was absolutely starving, and eating was the only way I could keep nausea at bay. I ate so much and so often that my face hurt. And vegetables? They pretty much left my plate. I was on a carbohydrate overload. Second, I started getting nauseous during my practice, and my body started doing weird things - my shoulders were slipping during chatarunga**, I had stabbing pains in my belly during twists...I still craved asana physically and mentally, but I needed to back off. My plan was not exactly going as, um, planned.

Although it wasn't always easy, I lived my pregnant life for my baby. If I was hungry, I ate (even when I wanted pizza two meals in a row!). If I was exhausted, I didn't have a yoga practice. I gained a LOT of weight. I listened to my body, I accepted my circumstances. I gave birth to a healthy, happy baby boy on March 26th.

My "back to normal" plan isn't quite going as planned either. I was sure that by 4 months postpartum I'd be back to my daily asana practice, back to my regular eating habits and back in my jeans. So far, I've been lucky to get 3 or 4 practices in each week, I generally eat whatever is quickest to prepare, and I still have around 13 pounds to lose. I realize more and more that while it's sometimes necessary to have a plan, we also have to be open to the journey. Life happens, and not always how we imagine it will. However, dwelling on the things we consider to be wrong or bad only steals our energy, and often prevents us from seeing the beauty and the good in our life. Being a mom is not always easy, and sometimes all I really want is to take a shower/get a studio practice/have a nap, but I know that being a mom is the most important thing I'll ever do.

I have a new normal now. I'm taking it one day at a time, and I wouldn't change a thing.

Besides, how could anyone complain about waking up to this face every day?

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself [my circumstances] just as I am, then I can change."
Philosopher Carl Rogers

*Asana is the physical practice of yoga. Each posture is referred to as an asana.
**Chatarunga is low pushup.